Seems pretty simple, right? Then why is it so hard for some to show their appreciation of others?
Harvard Business Review wrote an article on "Why Appreciate Matters So Much" and I think it is an important read ( especially for those managers/bosses/higher ups ) Some key points in this article include:
1. We, as a whole, are more inept to express negative emotions rather than positive. This is mostly due to being reactive or defensive. And when one feels devalued or unappreciated, it's super toxic to not only their PERSONAL mental health but also their work ethic.
2. Less than 40% of workers feel that their manager genuinely cares about them.
3. "In one well-known study, workers who felt unfairly criticized by a boss or felt they had a boss who didn’t listen to their concerns had a 30 percent higher rate of coronary disease than those who felt treated fairly and with care." ( quoted from the article )
4. It's important to recognize even the littlest of things and speak up!...one kind word or "hey, I noticed this..." can change someone's entire mood.
5. It's not just "women being emotional" or things like that; appreciation in relationships, the workplace, friendship, etc. is a key factor to human nature.
I think that everyone who reads this post should click the link and read the article. It isn't long, but it makes important points about how a little appreciation goes a long way.
In a workplace environment, you will see less initiative, less productivity and a loss of morale within your employees that feel unappreciated. You may even lose a few great employees due to their feeling unappreciated. I left my last job because I felt as such; you get to a point where you're like, "Would you even care if I were here or not?"...and then you do something about it for your own well-being. So make sure you are letting the important people in your team know how important they really are to you before they aren't there one day.
Appreciation also helps you personally and your own self-esteem. If you're constantly focusing on everyone else's shortcomings, including your own, it can make for a very negative outlook on life. Showing gratitude for others also makes you feel more fulfilled as a person because you may have made someone's day.
It's important to realize that the energy you put out, you also receive back. I very much believe in karma, "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all" and that you get what you give. It takes very little effort to be nice to people and to give them a small compliment here and there.
"The Power of Showing Your Appreciation" from littlethingsmatter.com goes over some benefits, tips and challenges to show your appreciation for someone or something. Again, I encourage you all to read the article.
Sometimes it seems easier to pick out people's faults rather than their positive attributes. This is usually due to a negative mindset, stemming first from yourself personally and reflecting that outward into others. This is a toxic way to view the world and the people who live in it.
It is a human need to feel valued, wanted, cared about, and not taken for granted. In short--appreciated. And it takes so little to show that appreciation, people!
Compliment someone on a task they worked super hard on.
Ask someone how their day has been.
Give someone a 'Thank You' card.
Hell, just smile at someone!
We are all so caught up in trying to be the "best" at something and not paying attention to those people on the outside that help you to be your best. Especially when it come to work...and working as a "team". When one wheel falls off, the whole cart crashes.
...so how are you gonna keep that cart on all its wheels...?