Wednesday, May 17, 2017

The Gift Of Fear

Even though I still have not finished this book ( but hey!, I'm making progress! ), I wanted to write a blog about The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker.

A few months ago, I decided that instead of buying more Lularoe, I was going to take that money and buy some books I'd been wanting to purchase on Amazon. This book was on my list. I had picked up a cheap read at B&N last year called 50 Psychology Classics, which listed this novel and many others that I wanted to read more in-depth ( also, if you like psych but don't know what you want to read into, that book was $7.99 and gave you a sneak peak into all 50 books ) Anywaysssss....

So the author of this book sounds like a pretty interesting man. I assume he's a doctor but it's never mentioned ( at least 193 pages in, I didn't see it ) He advised the prosecution in the O.J. Simpson trial. He meets with major companies to help prevent workplace violence. He knows violent behavior, as he had experienced it into his childhood and studied it thereafter. And he wrote three books on the topic.

The point of this 315 page book ( not including the epilogue and appendices ) is to teach yourself how to recognize violent behaviors and to take it seriously.   

Once you start reading, though, you find out that a lot of this recognition is actually based on instincts. In his book, he has this chart listed in Chapter 2:

This chapter is called Survival Signals and discusses the behaviors of strangers, but as you read further he gets into relationship violence and work violence, also. 

He even wrote an entire chapter on how employers can help avoid a violent act by a jaded employee. De Becker goes into the best ways to spot a violent person, ways to diffuse the situation and to ( ultimately ) eliminate them from their position. 

Violence is not just behind closed doors. Look at Columbine. Look at the World Trade Center. Look at 11:00PM on a Tuesday night in a bad part of town. Look at the fucking news! Violence is everywhere and even innocent people can be affected. That's why this book is a good idea for everyone to read ( especially women! )

Now, I was a tad worried that it would feed into my mild hypochondriac tendencies, but it's also empowering!--not every gut feeling automatically means something bad is going to happen, but you need to feel this emotion, evaluate it and then act accordingly. We have instincts for a reason, people. But I know, hindsight is always 20/20.

I have about 100 more pages to go in this book, but I definitely think it's a beneficial book to own. De Becker's stories are not only informational, but also very interesting. It's not a hard read at all--I just don't prioritize reading like I once did. 

If you want a read that makes you second guess situations you've been in in your past, tools to protect yourself in the future and interesting tales from others, grab a copy of The Gift Of Fear and "don't. get. murdered!"