Sunday, May 14, 2017

Happy Mother's Day

This is the day we give a shout out to all the moms...but, of course, you should thank your mom regularly. Try telling a teenager that, though...

If you read my previous blog it tells you a bit about my situation with my mother, so I'm not going to go into that again. Today, I want to thank all the OTHER types of mothers.

The mothers who lost their child.
The step-mothers who love their children like their own.
The "mothers" who will never get the chance to be.
The dog/furry moms.
The mom-figures.
And to those who have lost their mothers.

There are a few important women in my life that I want to say a special "happy mother's day" to:

I swear that you were supposed to be my mom. When I first started at Perio, you immediately took me under your wing. You looked out for me and guided me and helped me to be the best I could be...something a mother does. You never got to have children of your own, and I'm sorry for that. You would've been a great one. We went from coworkers to friends and now you're like my family. I'm thankful that you became my "surrogate" mom, and I love you very much.

I know that it pains you inside to know that you will never have the ability to be a mom. And hunnie, you would've been a great one. Be it that you and George decide to adopt or you just have furry kids, your friends and family are very lucky to have you as a mom-figure to their children. And if you do adopt, your children will be super lucky to have you both as parents.

You know more about me than I think I even know about myself. And I know that deep down this day is probably going to wear on you a bit. Please remember that your momma is looking after you and she loved/loves you very much. She would be so proud of where you are today. 

Karen A,
Out of all the women that dad dated, you were the only one that treated us like one of your own. You didn't treat us poorly, you weren't unfair and I will always be grateful for the opportunity to meet you. I'm sorry that it didn't work out, and I COMPLETELY understand why, but you've would've been a great step-mom.

Thank you for taking care of things for Carol and I when dad couldn't and mom wasn't there. Without your help and guidance, we would probably be far-off worse than where we are. I know I haven't been around as much and I hope to be more often now that you all have met Nate, but I just wanted to say that I love you very much and I ALSO hope you have a fantastic birthday today!

You welcomed me into you and Nate's lives with open arms and have been nothing but kind and considerate to me. I'm glad that you see that I'm not like all the others, and that I only get on Nate when it's important and necessary. I want to have a life with your son and I'm so glad that we get along well.

You have become a wonderful mother. Although you still get on my nerves ( you're my sister! ), Madilyn is very lucky to have such a loving and caring mom. I know that our past experiences molded us and the fact that Mom wasn't there truly makes you want to be the best mother you can for Madilyn...and she deserves it. Just keep doing what you're doing, and don't let anyone's opinions of your mothering get you down! ( you know who I'm talking about... )

Aunt Stacey,
I don't know WHAT I would've done during adolescence without your help and guidance! OMG!...hahaha! You were there to talk to when I was having boy problems, dad problems and just depressed. You got me on birth control ( and look!...STILL NOT PREGNANT! LMAO! ) and took me to the appointments that I didn't want dad to take me to. YOU were my mom during that time in my life, and I would've never survived had I not had you to confide in. You're the best aunt a girl could ask for and thank you for being there when I didn't have mom.

YOU ARE THE STRONGEST MAMA I KNOW! I know that you don't feel like it sometimes, but you are. I admire you so much and how you deal with being a single mom of 3. But you make it work, and sometimes I have NO clue how. I know some days are rougher than others, but you always keep that mentality that it's "for your babies"...what a good mother does. Don't let ANYBODY tell you differently...I am SO proud of you and I love you to the moon and back. Thank you so much for being my friend for all of these years and making me a part of your family. We get each other...on a level that no one else does...and we could not talk for 2 years and *still* act like we never stopped speaking. You're my very best friend and I'm so glad. 

And a quick shout out to Angie for taking on the role as step-mom to her husbands little boy and kicking ASS at it. I know it's hard sometimes, girl, but when he's older he will appreciate all that love--I promise! Cherie, I know that you suffered a loss and that the pain will never fully go away...and it breaks my heart. I hope that one day you have the ability to have a beautiful baby of your own ( biological or not ) and when you do, you will be a wonderful mama.  

I hope all you ladies have a wonderful day filled with homemade cards, flowers, your favorite dinner or just a kiss and hug. You ladies are superwomen, and totes deserve it!