Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Mean Girls

You know what really grinds my gears? Mean girls.

I had a conversation yesterday with a female who was not very nice about another female. And then she continued to judge two more females in the same conversation. Like, who made YOU God, lady? What gives you the right to say if what someone is doing is wrong or right? What gives you the right to say something about someone's ethic/weight/life choices/etc? Especially when it's someone you don't even know...?!

It's that type: the easily-offended, trigger-happy, always-wanting-to-instigate-a-fight type. 

It's drives me BONKERS!

It's especially hard when it's someone that you can't verbalize your concerns to or about, also. There's certain situations where I would've spoken up and others where I just quietly defend and say my peace. The latter was the route I took. I feel like you don't have to fly off the handle to stress your point: if a woman is saying something negative about another woman and you don't like it, politely say something to diffuse the situation and show that your opinion is different. You can stand up for someone without saying much at all. But don't, I repeat don't, allow mean girls to continue to talk poorly about everyone and everything.

I've learned that these people are toxic. I've fed into the gossip over the years and realized it's so so toxic for me to fall into. Maybe some would've said I was a mean girl. I've said mean things before, I won't lie. What girl hasn't? But I make it a point these days to not say anything if it's not nice. Sure, I'm a female, and sometimes I lapse...but I make it a priority to defend people when I feel it is necessary and to not speak ill of other women because 1) bitches talk, and 2) my opinion is not going to change someone else's opinion of someone...so what's the point? I'd much rather start a sentence with, "She made me feel..." than "That girl is a bitch!" What does that solve?

Also, girls need to learn how to phrase things. 9 times out of 10 if people always "take you the wrong way", it's because you don't know how to talk to people. "Oh, she flew off the handle when I came to her about it..."; maybe it's your presentation. Maybe...you're just not a nice person. Maybe...you are just mean!

So for me, I've learned to distance myself from girls like this and limit my interaction as much as I possibly can. I do not want to be put in a bad situation OR be made the next target. Because, I'll be damned if you're talking like that to ME, you're *definitely* talking like that ABOUT me. You cannot be trusted. You're slimy and manipulative and just a mean girl,

Unfortunately, you must always heed caution when trusting girls. It's sad, but true. So be smart when you share your life with others...you never know when it may come back to bite you in the ass...