Tuesday, October 18, 2016

A Fine, Fine Line

It's quite hard NOT to notice how conceited people are in this day and age. Where women pose half-naked and beg for likes. Where men flex their muscles and their high expectations. Where trolls leave anonymous comments and ridicule others behind a computer screen. We live in a world where self-fulfillment is only accomplished by how many *likes* we can receive...and how we can hurt others...

This is the difference between confidence and narcissism.

I see a lot of girls posting regular selfies, but with captions like "Let the haters hate!" and "I'm so f#$*ing hot! Don't you wish you could be me?" This is not confidence. This is being conceited. Confidence should not have to be vocalized. If you are truly confident of yourself, you don't feel the need to express things like that...or belittle others while doing so. 

Self-confidence is important in being a well-rounded adult. It's also something that children should learn at a young age. It's hard to look in magazines and media at all the touched-up models and feel good about your looks. But confidence is not just about your appearance; it's about your way of life. 

It's okay to have a good face day or to be proud of yourself for doing something nice for someone else...but you shouldn't expect praise. If you feel good, awesome!...don't let anyone dull your shine. But if you push your opinion about feeling good, you come off as a little self-absorbed. We all know what you look like...we don't need to see a million selfies with conceited captions. We all know you're a humanitarian...you don't have to list all of your volunteering achievements for the world. 

It's an unspoken feeling of personal strength and accomplishment. It's a response to a situation that doesn't sound sassy or obvious.

Conceited
Me: You look really pretty today.
Then: I know! But I look pretty everyday, duh!

Confident
Me: You look really pretty today.
Then: Aww, thanks so much! That's very nice of you to say that.

Even just the way you phrase a response to a compliment or question can deem you one way or the other. 

I know some of you may be saying, "Well, this is just fucking common sense" but...how many people these days actually lack the such? ( A LOT! ) And I feel that some people just don't even care how they come off to others. I'm sorry, but I don't want to be around anyone who thinks that highly of themselves and has the nerve to blatantly vocalize it because it's not a good attribute to have. 

If you're truly pretty, it's not just exterior: it should be interior, also. 

It just baffles me the things I see nowadays. I'm all about "girl power" and feeling good in your own skin, but the way some people must feed off of attention is alarming...and sickening.

Be humble.

Be grateful.

And most of all, be the type of person that you'd want to be friends with.

Confidence is sexy; arrogance is hideous.