Thursday, September 15, 2016

Mine, mine, MINE!

In life, there are numerous opinions, from where you should get your lunch to who you should vote for as president. Social media and real life alike are flooded with differing viewpoints. Sometimes...it can be quite overbearing. Stubborn people can also make it quite exhausting. I, personally, tend to shut down when others make me feel like my opinions and input are not valued, and it made me think about good ways to deflate a possibly volatile situation.

Don't get visibly angry.
Let's say that your doing a project with a classmate, and this classmate pretty much takes over the entire thing. They want the board this color with this information by these sources and, well, that's just that. 

No.

Take a breath, think through your thoughts, and express what you need to express. It is not okay for someone to think their way is the only right way because, it's not. But try to not get angry. When you lash out, you say things without thinking them all the way through. Then, instead of getting your point across, you simply just exacerbate the situation.  

Sometimes, it's more a person's fear of change that makes them feel like they have to take charge for things to be "correct". It's not a good excuse in my opinion, but I understand it. No one LIKES change...but who is to say what people need to change, and what people don't...?

Walk away from the situation.
When someone wants me to do something "their way only" or wants to battle me on "why my opinion is wrong", I get pissed. I do. I feel like it's an insult to my intelligence and my ethics. I don't like that.

So you know what?

I've learned to just walk away. Sometimes you just need a moment to regroup, give yourself a little pep talk, and just keep on keepin' on. 

If they aren't your boss or your teacher or someone of higher authority, who the fuck cares? You just do you and fuck the haters.

Unfollow them.
This one is more of a social media example, but true just the same.

I have a handful of people on my Friend's List that have very...strong opinions, we'll say. And I don't hate them for it. But, sometimes it can be a little much. You don't want to completely unfriend these people, but you also don't want your entire feed flooded with their presidential candidate and views on homosexual marriage or abortion. 

Simply click "unfollow". That way, you can still maintain an internet friendship with others without being bombarded by their constant opinions.

And, if necessary, delete them.
We've all had to do it at least once. 

Trolls.

There's always a least one troll out there who has to second guess you on every little thing you write. Making it a point to pick out "errors" and make you second-guess yourself.

Just press delete.

These people are not worth your time, your effort or another thought. They live to argue. They may not even believe in something but still want to fight you on why what your saying is wrong.

Internet trolls are the fucking worst.

If you need to block them, so be it. Do whatever you have to do to be happy and drama free. No one is better than anyone else out there; we all have our strengths and our weaknesses. If it is someone's goal in life to argue with everyone around them...you don't need that type of negativity in your life, yo!

Real, respectful friends with listen to your opinions and, even if they don't agree with them, they will respect them. Good classmates, coworkers and peers will show you that your opinions DO matter and may actually help improve something that is already in motion. 

But there will unfortunately always be that collection of people that, no matter what, will always have that "my way or the highway" mentality. There's nothing you can really do about it. So, just try to focus on you and do/be the best you can! 

You matter. Your opinions matter. Focus on bettering yourself each day FOR. YOU.